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“The Bread-Project” at Garden Gate (pre)School

Eating good food and raising healthy children go hand-in-hand. “The Bread Project” at Garden Gate School has been years in the making – first dreamed about 8 years ago when I became obsessed with the idea of a “community oven” that would bake my “wild-yeasted” bread. With the help of our local perma-culturalist/naturalist/oven-builder, Mike Gerard, we (he) built an Alan Scott wood-fired oven in the back yard. I kept my “levain” (starter) alive and worked at baking great loaves for children in the school and for family. Much traveling and eating has helped me understand what I want out of a loaf. Continual teaching of young children illustrates why understanding slow, local food is parallel to raising strong, healthy children.

In a society intent on growing our children up very fast and stuffing fast food down our throats, the decision to slow things down is a step outside of the mainstream. But, it is a good idea according to child-development expert Alison Gopnik. In her book, “The Gardener and the Carpenter,” Gopnik likens the raising of children to that of cultivating a garden:

“When we garden, on the other hand, we do not believe we are the ones who single-handedly create the cabbages or the roses. Rather, we toil to create the conditions in which plants have the best chance of flourishing. The gardener knows that plans will often be thwarted, Gopnik writes. “The poppy comes up neon orange instead of pale pink … black spot and rust and aphids can never be defeated.” If parents are like gardeners, the aim is to create a protected space in which our children can become themselves, rather than trying to mould them.” (

By keeping the soil rich, the air clean, the water pure, we are encouraging each child to learn by experience through her senses, to discover how wonderful this world is through his own combinations of ideas and actions. The process is slower. Our children will not form into recognizable people as quickly – they will take longer to find out the effects of gravity, or how to add up groups of objects, or how to read and write. But, we can use this time to enrich their (and our) environments with reflective parenting that cultivates their (and our) moral qualities: empathy, kindness, generosity, thoughtfulness, nurture. The many experiences that are possible if we focus on these practices when our children are little will inevitably allow each child to engage her particular path towards “becoming a person”.

Good, wild-yeasted, bread also relies on rich soil, pure water, air and time. Slow food is about connecting to place and process, acknowledging that the baker does not have total control over the materials. The long-term nature of a wild-yeasted starter and the unique outcomes of the loaves, mimic Gopnik’s words about gardening children. But, making these loaves in a preschool/kindergarten is a lived-experience for the children. The wheat grasses can be found throughout the play yard and vegetable garden as well as small family-farms not too far from here. The wheat berries sit on top of the old-fashioned hand-cranked mill that the children turn. They witness the flour going into the dough while we collect sticks and pile wood for the wood-fired bread oven. The process is arduous and multi-dimensional. Adults at work; children at play. It is a good and productive world that they want to participate in. A medieval wood-fired oven in the play yard exposes adult-work, demystifies what adults do, and embedies goals for young ones. We work together to pile up wood and stack it by the oven. We sit in front of the fire when it is cold outside, telling stories.

In a world where adult-work has disappeared from view (into cyber-space), children have little to observe. And they need it. Slow food in all its forms is a way to unpack our labor so that they can see what “work” is: ground masa from corn growing in our gardens, pickled cucumbers brined in our own jars, strawberry jam from a spring day’s harvest, persimmon pudding from the native persimmons we collected while hiking together as a family. All of these are ways our children can participate in productive and creative work within our families. The “slowness” of it is also an unspoken acknowledgement that we understand the process of “growing up” and it calms the children in these restless times.
In her book, “The Importance of Being Little: What Preschoolers Really Need from Adults”, Erika Christakis argues that if we turn preschool/kindergarten in to 1st grade and push skills over relationships (to each other, but I would add to the environment), we are endangering society’s future. It’s that serious. She pleads for us to pay attention to the social-emotional lives of our little ones (skills can come later):

“I would argue that many so-called academic skills are very anti-intellectual and very uncognitive. Whereas I think a lot of the social-emotional skills are very much linked to learning.
I think the biggest one is the use of language. When kids are speaking to one another and listening to one another, they’re learning self-regulation, they’re learning vocabulary, they’re learning to think out loud. And these are highly cognitive skills. But we’ve bought into this dichotomy again. I would say “complex skills” versus “superficial” or “one-dimensional skills.”
To give you an example, watching kids build a fort is going to activate more cognitive learning domains than doing a worksheet where you’re sitting at a table. The worksheet has a little pile of pennies on one side and some numbers on the other, and you have to connect them with your pencil. That’s a very uni-dimensional way of teaching skills.
Whereas, if you’re building a fort with your peers, you’re talking, using higher-level language structures in play than you would be if you’re sitting at a table. You’re doing math skills, you’re doing physics measurement, engineering — but also doing the give-and-take of, “How do I get along? How do I have a conversation? What am I learning from this other person?” And that’s very powerful.” (Interview on NPR,

Slow food and early childhood value process over product. When we build the world around our young children we can, for a little while, infuse it with the nutrition of productive experiences, cooperative work, and creative problem-solving. These can become the building blocks for a lifetime of relationships, meaningful work, happiness, and yes, a better society.

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A Pile of Dirt – one childhood in a Failed State

I keep thinking about my childhood in Zambia. Images of sunshine in the clouds, beautiful tall trees, huge ants on the flagstone, red ants under the avocado tree bark, the squabbling chickens, our three huge dogs, those turtles after the rain, dry lightening storms, and yes, a pile of dirt that arrived every spring and was dumped by the fence. True, there were no screen-entertainment options – not even T.V. The one-channel state media came on at 5:00 p.m. every evening; once a week my brother and I could watch an hour of Sesame Street or I recall seeing “Gilligan’s Island” (but maybe that’s made-up), before the news came on. 

Zambia in the late 60s – early 70s was a “failing colonial state”. It was a time for reinvention and remorse, a time to come together or to blame one another. It was a time for religion to open its many hearts or splinter us. We could either reinvent our destinies or leave. My family tried to reinvent itself and then we left. We were not missionaries or teachers or bankers or escapees from South Africa. We were Zambian. Our hopes for Zambia were as great as the sunrise on the Zambezi river. Our home was a place of much mirth, many gatherings, conversations about a “new politics”, and the door was always open, no “warning calls” needed. We had pool parties every Sunday.  ANYONE was welcome – ethnic backgrounds were irrelevant, friendship was not.

We kids knew how to play – mostly because adults were busy with this new world. We built forts in the bushes, houses in the bamboo, and played-out stories in the enormous strawberry patch. Our dogs were fellow-characters. There was much ado about nothing. 

But, that pile of dirt was one of my favorite places to play alone. I climbed it and stood on top, feeling the breeze and seeking out the little girl who lived next door. I told stories to myself and molded them in the soft, pliable, (manure) soil. I ran down and lay in the grass, gazing at the story-clouds. Apparently, I was there all day. And by the end of a day, I was so stinky that a full-force hose was turned on me before someone threw me into the tub. 

I did not feel my parents’ insecurities very often. Their worlds were exploding. Once a thief broke in to our house and I remember us sitting down all together with the police the next morning. I heard that the robber had actually crept to my parents’ bedside tables to look for jewelry and money. I think I slipped away through the side door to find that centipede I’d been playing with the day before. And, I remember my father talking about how difficult it was to get his trucks across the country (he ran THE moving & storage company for Central Africa). Thieves were pillaging and attacking the trucks and their drivers. I remember that we had to get an armed guard. I did not know why.

I don’t remember that my dad was gone for several weeks, seeking a new home for us somewhere in the world. I don’t remember that my parents and all our cousins disagreed about where we should emigrate. I don’t remember how the last day arrived. When it did, I felt the grief. But, I felt no fear. We were on an adventure. Together.

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A Time to Rethink Education

“A crisis forces us back to the questions themselves and requires from us either new or old answers, but in any case direct judgments. A crisis becomes a disaster only when we respond to it with preformed judgments, that is, with prejudices. Such an attitude not only sharpens the crisis but makes us forfeit the experience of reality and the opportunity for reflection it provides. (Hannah Arendt, 1954, “The Crisis in Education”)

The Covid-Crisis offers us a moment, a pause, a respite, to take in the world we have created – observe it, all of it. The inequities, the destruction of habitats and ecosystems, the loss of agricultural knowledge, the meaningless jobs, broken families, hardened racisms, protection of identities and attendant loss of compassion, the desires by the richest not to mix with the rest of us and their beliefs that they are exceptional humans, the ascription of one’s self-value to the amount of money earned, the loss of confidence or trust in governing bodies while consuming from commercial bodies that are larger than governments and have no obligation to be transparent, the break down of families under economic and social stress. Is the Covid Crisis showing us which societies care about their citizens and which ones do not? Is it laying bare how inequities are killing us? Can we use this crisis as a lens through which to examine what most families in any modern nation-state need? What better time to rethink education.

I keep hearing parents, schools, and teachers say that our children need to “keep the learning going on at home”. It’s an astounding statement given that we and our children are a part of a history-changing moment – but we need to take time to witness it. The desire to “keep things normal” is understandable. But, the world as we know it just shifted – either because of the pandemic or because of the collapsing economy. Once we are able to come up for air, what might we do to love and know our world again?

As an educator I believe that a breakdown in any society has roots in how it educates its citizens. Education in the U.S., like most places in the world, allows culture to be reproduced and the choices of an older generation to become the moveable realities of a younger one. Schools are the vehicles for this process. Families and communities contribute to the “cultural values” of the school – its priorities and goals, especially in an immigrant nation, where the “melting pot” ideal has melted and the building blocks of our towns reflect deep-rooted diversities that have not been harnessed into a vision for American society. The last 40 years have cultivated truly competitive and brutally self-serving sets of social practices that have not been challenged by our schools.

Instead, our schools have embraced the logic of capitalism, (market, colonial, industrial, post-industrial, neo-liberal, surveillance, corporate, government) and allowed it to dominate all other logics, erasing other forms of intelligence, turning our souls into material goods and selling them on a market that imagines the existence of money. This would make sense if we were “Alice” in wonderland. Schools in the 1980s adopted the individual-competitive model and seemed to never look back. Our children were shamed by bad grades, wrong answers, not fitting in or losing, so we had to make “everyone a winner”. But, everyone is not a winner; competition still drives the activities. Can we appreciate our children’s work without comparing it to others? Local banks offer “bunny bucks” for good behavior – external motivation replaces the natural drive to learn. Kindergarten teachers reward children who behave well – rather than focusing on creating projects that draw out best behaviors, that is, cooperative and group oriented activities. School districts pit teachers against each other to get best scores (and not lose their jobs). Freshmen enter college afraid to answer questions wrongly, afraid to ask questions, only interested in getting the right answer. This does not bode well for the kinds of problems our planet faces.

And, what kind of future does this offer our children? Should they have to fit into a broken world-order or should they be equipped with the tools of their imaginations, skills in their hands, compassion in their hearts, and flexibility in their judgements. Covid-19 has removed us from society and given us a chance to value those human connections again. But, how should we reconnect?

The deeper crisis in U.S. education – that of the triumph of an economic model over how we think about any issue – needs to be critically examined. Our public schools (so many of us have abandoned those potentially world-transforming places) already contain so many resources for rethinking our world. How many of us have learned new gardening techniques from neighbors who were Mong farmers in Vietnam? Or how to knit mittens like an Icelandic granny? We may have tasted the amazing curry of an Indian neighbor at the kindergarten potluck, but did we learn the vedic counting system? Did a child come to school wearing Kente cloth and your child was mesmerized? How many of us actually decided to learn Spanish after meeting several Spanish-speaking children in our schools? Have we worn the “diversity” badge without allowing it to educate us? Have we allowed the corporatization of our schools to define how we view our child’s success? How much time have we taken to learn from our neighbors? How much do we know about our own family’s histories? And, what other place on earth offers up such rich resources? Maybe now is the time.

Public schools, not private schools, homeschools or unschools, lay the foundation for education in the U.S. Industrial capitalism, with its cookie-cutter designs, continues to legitimize the existence of schools (there’s a reason they look like factories or prisons) while these very schools invite in the surveillance capital (software corporations) that has no walls but needs a poor and unimaginative labor force. Covid places our children (and their poor teachers) squarely in front of screens in an attempt to mimic reality. After a few weeks both teachers and children know the promise is empty. There is no learning going on – only a game of pretend. Though, it’s not difficult to realize how empty the educational promise in America is these days (if we can teach virtually what are we doing in schools; if we don’t need schools why not disband -but continue to need the software corporations who supply us with “educational materials”.) If only those who can afford to build their own (private/publicly-funded) schools can have them, the rest of us will end up working for them. (Sound familiar Betsy DeVos)? Certainly without schools, one more cornerstone of American public life will disappear. And those who will be lucky enough have physical schools will also only know each – elite – other – helping themselves socially, politically, and financially, but not knowing how to think about the rest of the world.

How do we reclaim our public schools? How do we place our teachers back into those schools? How do we ensure that all children have access to education equally so that those who become our policy-makers don’t see themselves as exceptional to humanity. As the saying goes, “all education really begins at home”. So, now’s our chance. Dig out old photos of your families, tell those stories. Share home-cooked meals that everyone helped to prepare. Pick up an old craft from a family tradition and learn it with your children. Get to know yourselves. The experiences you have with your children during this crisis are “war memories”, engraved by the trauma of this change, that will be powerful enough to nourish our children into adulthood. My mother still thinks about how she and her sisters had to take apart old sweaters to knit socks for the soldiers during WWII. It is a memory filled with trauma, love, and warmth.

Allow these long days to be interspersed with curiosity. Does you child have a Mexican friend at school? Try making tortillas together so that when we return to shared spaces they will build a deeper relationship. Build a simple loom and try to weave Kente cloth or cook an African meal or a curry. Learn to knit those mittens together. Find out what kinds of crafts your grandparents had – try to recreate them – your children will be deeply moved.

When we get through the Covid-Crisis, we need to begin rebuilding the world on different principles of society. Another pandemic is coming. Climate change is happening. And the foundations of 21c. education in the U.S. should not be laid upon the dog-eared economic principles of capitalism. If there is something our generation – parents – can do for our children it is to show them that there are lots of wonderful ways to think about the world, what a good life is, how to solve a problem, and how to be together. Our schools need our support and need to let go of their corporate funders. All children need to be placed into rich environments, filled with art, music, math, physics, stories, quiet, excitement, movement, and stillness. It doesn’t need more software. If we return to our schools with new stories about our families, new skills based on curiosity, and a commitment to our diverse communities, we will have not lost time and will have gained insight into our own needs as a society.

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What’s the use of summertime?

What’s summertime for? There’s a myth that our long summer breaks are a vestige of agricultural rhythms – but how are we to interpret that when we easily misunderstand other “founding acts” for the sake of present-day benefits? How many private industries grow out of this “gap in the public fund”? How do we continue to work (to pay for the daycare) so that we can afford the house (to sleep in) to buy our healthy food to heat up in the microwave (because the oven takes too long)? Perhaps we can accept summertime as a gift. Somehow everyone slows down, and children know this if they are outdoors in the heat and sunshine. Children know what to do with these long days – if we let them.

Because young children are born knowing how to play, they will know what to do in a backyard filled with twigs, sticks, stones, water, and shade. Unlike us, they can fill that space with their imaginary friends and companions, stories, time with a pet, or a family of fairies and gnomes. Yes, these imaginary creatures are important vehicles for our young ones who don’t yet distinguish between “fact” and “fiction” (as if we can). If we let them, our young children will fill an apparently empty space with their imaginations. But we need to get out of their way.

If we have filled their lives with stimulation: “entertainment-parenting”, screens of any sort, constant outings, etc., they will need more time to settle-down to the expectations of a “blank slate” – the backyard. If we have placed our precious one in the center of the world, responding to every request and statement, that too will take time to unwind. If we have few other children to invite over into our backyards, maybe just one or two a week would do – social time with others, but unstructured. How much time to clear the system of overstimulation? At least a month. At that point a young child will not want to come indoors, will be so self-entertaining that you’ll be able to write your masterpiece, will be an active participant in a world of her or his making and less willing to sit in front of a screen. Within a predictable summer routine of time together in the morning, at lunch and at dinner, our children will thrive on less.

Summertime is for our backyard, for lying under a tree and watching the breezes, for listening to the bustle of birds and rodents, and envisioning their homes inside trees, under the ground, and in the branches. What does mama bird yell at her babies? Where does that hole in the ground lead to? Maybe I can build an underground home too. Perhaps there’s a family of moles building more rooms, connecting to a town, collecting for the winter, playing together? There are few limits on how children will imagine the lives of animals in their yards (unless they’ve been exposed to the lies of Disney). These internal narratives will nourish their literary souls and entertain you at the dinner table.

Summertime is for slower time, thoughtful time, time together as families, the backyard.

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May Day: honoring change, forgiving ourselves

What is May Day for if not to celebrate a change in the season? Or changes in the ways our lives are organized? Or in the new ways we might view our children?

We came together as a school last week, on May 1, to circle around the maypole and to eat pizza out of our community bread/pizza oven. Our delightful afternoon was a pause; a moment to enjoy one another and to stop the quickening time that spring seems to bring. One parent ran the pizza oven, others helped organize the ribbons around the pole, grandparents looked over us, children played in the mud, a daughter placed one perfect pizza after another into the burning hot oven. We did not discuss world events. We shared pizza toppings and recipes, considered ways to spend time together over the summer, shared information on musical performances happening in town, and ways to cook our dinners together in the bread oven.

Spring brings a change in schedules, feelings for our town, our houses, the ways we work, and the ways we relax. It is a chance to offer new ideas for supporting one another in this “raising children” project. It offers us chances to sit outdoors together discussing our daily challenges and to laugh about the multiple ways we “get it wrong”.  How do we get it wrong? Oh, in so many creative ways. Our latest book, The Coddling of the American Mind: how good intentions and bad ideas are setting up a generation for failure, helps us to see the errors in our ways – and to continue the work of parenting together.

One chapter in particular, “Paranoid Parenting”, holds up a difficult mirror:

“Paranoid parenting is a powerful way to teach kids all three of the Great Untruths. We convince children that the world is full of danger; evil lurks in the shadows, on the streets, and in public parks and restrooms. Kids raised in this way are emotionally prepared to embrace the Untruth of Us Versus Them: Life is a battle between good people and evil people – a worldview that makes them fear and suspect strangers. We teach children to monitor themselves for the degree to which they “feel unsafe” and then talk about how unsafe they feel. They may come to believe that feeling “unsafe”(the feeling of being uncomfortable or anxious) is a reliable sign that they are unsafe (the Untruth of Emotional Reasoning: Always trust your feelings). Finally, feeling these emotions is unpleasant; therefore, children may conclude, the feelings are dangerous in and of themselves – stress will harm them if it doesn’t kill them (the Untruth of Fragility: What doesn’t kill you makes you weaker).”(177)

Children who grow up with these guiding principles are more likely than others to believe that ideas can hurt them, or that feeling uncomfortable in a classroom is a reason to vilify a teacher or professor publicly. This young “iGeneration”, now in college, is more likely than any other to believe that they cannot engage in critical debates for fear of being hurt, literally. This, of course, makes us parents uncomfortable, for how do we allow our children to navigate the challenging terrain of people we don’t agree with, who may be too pushy, who might always seem to get their way, or manage to constantly be the center of attention, or who we just don’t understand?

Meanwhile, the children continue to play in the mud, set up a bucket/rope/shovel experiment, climb the tire swing and take turns with who stands on top, organize a “family of puppies” with mama and daddy in charge, all without the help of any adults, who are still busy eating pizza and sharing recipes.

It’s not that we parents should not be concerned about the real dangers out there in the world, but rather, how do we allow our children the necessary space and time to develop their own tools for navigating a difficult world with abiding faith that they can do it. We just need to continually practice letting our children find their own boundaries (within ours) and forgive ourselves endlessly!

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Gardening Children: Choosing Environments for our Young Children 

“Plants are improved by cultivation, and men (sic) by education….This education comes to us from nature itself, or from other men, or from circumstances. The internal development of our faculties and of our organs is the education nature gives us; the use we are taught to make of this development is the education we get from other men; and what we learn, your own experience, about things that interest us, is the education of circumstances.” (Jean Jacques Rousseau, Emile, 1762)

What is a kindergarten? A child’s garden, a garden for children, or a place where adults cultivate their gardens? If we are the gardeners, what should be in the soil? How do we provide places for shade-loving or sun-loving children? How do we make sure roots grow deeply and hidden capacities are not blocked? The metaphor slowly transitions towards a view of all the other environments – or circumstances, as Rousseau would have it – where our children grow: schools, towns, shops, communities, neighbors, society. These are places where we have little to no control. Many of us are concerned about the kinds of values our children will bring home with them once they are outside the home, playing and learning with others. We live in a society with mixed values. How do we ensure that our children will reflect the values of our own families as they learn and grow?

While our children are young we should take time to think about what kinds of experiences and values we want our young children to absorb. If our homes and  our schools are filled with meaningful relationships, work, play, artistic activities, cooperation, the lives of animals and plants, and respect for the needs of others, then healthy foundations for learning will be laid. If families make deliberate efforts to connect with each other on a daily basis around the dinner table or at bath time, bedtime or on the weekend hike, communication will become an important aspect for how a family’s values will be instilled.

Children are built to learn. This is why they are so dependent. It is up to us, the parents, to choose and create some environments for our little ones to flourish and not to shut-down. The multitude of over-stimulating, numbing, adultifying experiences available to our children is evidence that we do not live in a society that values childhood in and for itself. In her latest book, Erika Christakis describes the loss:

“We’ve appropriated their music and books and clothes… but what have we given them in return? Adult gadgets and expectations? Unfortunately, the solution requires more than merely reducing screen time and ponying up more Legos. The small window of early childhood is closing its blinds a little prematurely, it seems. For example, 10 percent of eight-year-old girls are now in the early stages of puberty. Children themselves are leaving the early years behind with a new urgency.” (The Importance of Being Little: What Young Children Really Need From Grownups , xix, Erika Christakis, 2016).

In order to value the experience of childhood, parents and teachers need to have their own developed capacities for thought and feeling. And, we need to value adulthood – the ability to apply life’s lessons in order to guide our children. If we fall prey to the abundant beliefs that “getting older” is something to run away from, we will find ourselves wanting to be like children. This, in turn will make us vulnerable to the superficial trends of competitive culture and consumerism because we have not taken time to develop our capacities as adults. 

Childhood cannot be saved by children. Children up to the early-nineteenth century were “quickly grown” in order to take up their life’s responsibilities depending on class. Historians continue to examine the idea that “childhood” did not emerge until the seventeenth century in Europe, that it did not exist at all during the middle ages. So, what is it about these young ages, say two years to eight, that is so valuable?

Developmental psychology continues to confirm what histories of childhood show us – that these years are malleable. It is a time when capacities are developing, when we can shut down creative thought or nourish it, feed imaginative capacities or not, encourage grit or crumble it, enable entitlement or cultivate gratitude. We can set healthy boundaries for our children to work with or believe they can set them alone; we can share appropriate responsibilities with them or under-evaluate what they are capable of; we can be their guides or be their followers. All of these choices have consequences. We can raise children who have poor boundaries, don’t know right from wrong, do not believe they can learn from adults, and have no sense of what they can offer the world or we can raise children who use their boundaries to know themselves, make mistakes in order to learn the right way to do something, seek adults who have something to teach, and believe they can offer the world something good. Our children all have capacities for renewed visions of a humane future rather than repeating the mistakes of the past.

As we begin another year at this “kinder-garten” it is we, the parents and teachers, who are gardening our children, building suitable environments for them to play and work, help and be helped, express themselves and consider the needs of others, learn that they can do something they could not do before, and become our (dependent) helpers. This is no easy task given the demands of our work-lives and the many places we send our children where we have no control. But this conversation may be a good place to begin.


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Daily Rhythms and Creativity

“I’ve suggested here that good play is taught by children to one another and it is probably the necessary precursor for every other kind of learning in a classroom…it is the child’s ability to play in a sustained manner that makes sense to other children, which opens the gates to all other pathways” (Paley; “A Child’s Work: The Importance of Fantasy Play”, pp. 71-73)
Our summer program is entering its final week and Ms. Jen and I have witnessed a slower summer rhythm enter naturally into our days outdoors. Not only did the first week’s heat slow us down, but the availability of so many new plants, bugs, water-holes, and shady spots moved us into many self-sustaining groups of children who role-played “baby-birds”, “families”, “royal-family” and “bakery”. Children built a stream running through the yard which needed help from all the children so it would flow. All-group games of tag integrated some new faces. And, narrative story-play has ensued.
The play yard is transformed! And, I suspect your back yards are too. All of these children know what to do in their gardens; mud soup, small puppet plays with stones, acorns and sticks, house and tent-building, and self-storytelling. Send them outside in the cooler mornings, they will find a space to enter into the flow of “childhood’s time”- slower, more fluid, dreamier, more meaningful.
We have had some magical days each week and the children have made new friends as the groups change. This has been a good opportunity for social flexibility, possible because the structure of our days has remained essentially the same. We have spent more time outdoors, but essentially everything is predictable. This allowed us to invite some new friends into “how we do things” and connect to one another in our play but also in the purposeful work that teachers do; gardening, mending, knitting, crocheting, sewing, and cooking. New children found their ways into our predictable days by way of running games and tag, but more often than that, entered into the creative play of narrative.
Our slower pace has allowed teachers to raise awareness of “crafting”. We wet-felted, finger-knitted, and did some blanket stitching on “pocket-pouches” for “collecting things”. Handwork is generally in the realm of the teacher, but we had enough five-year-olds who were interested in the project and a fifteen-year-old (thank-you Amalia!) with dexterous hands, that we were able to complete some lovely work together.
Inside, our circle has been filled with lovely nature songs and hand clapping-feet stomping songs, nursery rhymes, and circle games about bees “buzzing at the flowers”. We told the stories filled with imagery of woods, flowers, and animals: “Mashenka and the Bear”, a Russian folk-tale, “Little Red Cap”, “Akimba and Bumba”, an African story with a moral undertone about trustworthiness. 
We have been keeping it light at the snack table for the hot summer days -delicious green salads and different breads throughout the week. We have made sourdough, focaccia, pretzels and kindergarten bread which was devoured. The wood-fired bread oven baked some school bread and will be mastered so that all of you can bring in bread dough in the fall. The watermelon sorbet was a treat and Ms. Jen wanted to share the recipe with you ( the children can be big helpers deseeding the watermelon for you.
Our parent-teacher committee have continued to meet to read Vivian Paley’s ever-insightful book “A Child’s Work: the importance of fantasy play”. She remains a vivid influence on our work here at Garden Gate with her reminder that “The children (are) in fact, natural-born storytellers who created literature as easily as I turned the pages of a book.” (16, Paley). When story-telling is valued, children bring their natural abilities to tell stories into everything they do; this is the basis of literacy and social awareness. Storytelling , not book-reading, in early childhood is part of active play, it is all intertwined.  And, as Ken Robinson says, “a return to a more active, problem-solving, play-based schooling that allows every child to gain the full benefits of early childhood and to develop a sense of who they are and what they are good at”(“Why Low-Tech Education and Outdoor Play is Trending in Education”, FT, June 2018; will create the basis for a more fair and just society.
We hope you all continue to have a slow and steady summer and look forward to seeing your relaxed faces in the fall. Keep the children playing, that is, actively creating and re-creating their worlds within the boundaries of predictable days and rhythms.
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Guiding our Children into Society: “No” for us is “Yes” for them

“The unexpectedly rigorous business of bringing up children exposed me, as it necessarily exposes almost any parents, to our ‘child-centered’ society’s icy indifference to everything that makes it possible for children to flourish and to grow up to be responsible adults.” (Christopher Lasch, The True and Only Heaven: Progress and its Critics, p. 33).

We spent an evening at our first parent-enrichment last week discussing and reflecting upon the importance of establishing good boundaries for our children by setting them most clearly for ourselves. The difference between our approach to the discipline that young children need and that of authoritarian-type parenting consists in a form of necessary self-reflection; “no” for us becomes “yes” for them. “Yes” you may play outside, climb a tree, sweep the porch, sit in the swing, play with a friend – emerges easily out of practices that do not allow iPads or television in our young children’s lives, sets time limits to play dates, bed times, dinner-table routines or rowdiness. We also need to deny ourselves the pleasures of too much screen time or overindulgence, while creating pleasurable time with our children: lying around doing nothing, doing chores together, hiking, family game nights, camping, traveling. These experiences of “togetherness” are the building blocks of our future, older families. These are daily practices of self-discipline. And if we know our children thrive in a predictable world designed by us through our abilities to set limits for ourselves, they will want to enter into that world in healthy ways.

Not only do these limit-setting practices help our young children, but they will help us as we and our children age – to know ourselves and to arrive quickly at the answers we need to difficult questions. What will we do when our 9 or 10 year old asks to go to a friend’s house and we don’t know that friend? What will we do when they encounter another family’s values and they are different from ours? How will we cut through the chaos of conflict that other value-systems will bring into our homes if we have not examined our own values and decided how we will act as a family? Inevitably we will encounter these other sets of values (if the television is on other people’s values are already in our home). But we will know that no matter the issue we need to wade through we’ll meet at the dinner table, or speak to one another respectfully, or give one another space if needed, or create opportunities for each other to feel better. This is the “fabric of family”.

We’ll be able to do this only if we’ve spent the time in our children’s early years, establishing well-thought-out practices of “togetherness” and discourse. If we push our young children away from our homes too early, we will lose touch with each other’s needs. We will not respect each family member’s difference. We will invite chaos into our homes and struggle to tame it. Our young children’s lives offer us the time to become “family” and to build strong foundations out of self-knowledge.

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Storytelling African-Style

There is nothing more lovely than telling a story outdoors, living into the images our own imaginations conjure, while the leaves rustle and the wind cools. We take inspiration from African storytelling which values the moment of storytelling as well as the images that need to be conveyed. One of my teachers, Harold Scheub, helps here: “Storytellers are constantly in the process of taking ancient images and casting them into contemporary kinds of forms. And so there’s no such thing as an original story. I don’t care where it is, whether it’s written or oral, the fact is that every story has been heard before. Every story has been told before. So if we’re looking for originality we’re going to find it, but in unique kinds of ways. We’re not going to find it the way a story is told, we’re not going to find it in the story itself. It’s that connection, that’s the important thing. Connections are everything. Connecting the present and the past, connecting the storyteller and the audience.” ( “The Man with 10,000 Tales” by Tim McDonnel. When we choose the stories we tell the children it is purely out of this connection that we operate.

The stories we tell are old, orally-transmitted tales, folktales, or pedagogical tales. We tell stories appropriate to the ages of our children, the season, and the make-up of the group. Story time on most days is silent – not a pin drop can be heard – because the children are so absorbed by the telling, the imagery, the lyricism, and the repetition. Young children love to hear a good story over and over; we tell each of our stories for three to four weeks. Stories contain gems that allow children to encounter wolves, thieves, giants, or elves. But these elements are true. So, for example, when I tell “Bremen Town Musicians”, each animal does not become “human” it remains within the bounds of its characteristics: the nervous rooster, the lazy cat, the chatty dog, and the clever donkey. These are not Disney characters who are really just humans in disguise. These are animals confronting their mortality and finding strength in one another.

Another story, “The Turnip”, seems very simple at first. But the group effort needed for all the characters to pull the turnip out of the ground is a magical image of helping one another make the harvest. I watched the children “act it out” last week and will never forget the looks of joy as each child wrapped their arms around the person in front of them in order to pull out the two children who were the “turnip”. Our children need images of social cooperation more than ever.

Unlike reading a story, our stories are not told “perfectly” every time. And sometimes the teller embellishes or erases details, much to the delight of the listeners. Our “Africanization” of storytelling gives the child permission to tell her own stories – to take a story into play with other children, to tell a story he’s heard before without worrying about whether they it’s “right”. Again, the perfectionism inherent in our industrially fabricated material realities (books) can hinder our children from becoming authors, ready to jump into the creative abyss of their own abilities.

Literacy is nothing if it is not love of stories and story telling. Children who are not forced to read too early have time to author their own tales, to play with language, and to hold a captive audience with whomever will listen – perhaps a small audience of stones and bottle caps (as my daughter used to do). Reading is useless if our readers don’t know the value of a story. And in order to love that story, our children need to be free from other people’s images (either in books or in videos) and to hear tales rich with ancient images cast both in old clothing as well as contemporary garb.

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Ready to begin!

The yard sits ready; dirt, sand, shade, plants. Teachers have created summer circle, chosen stories, and decided the menu. Crafts and chores await. We’ll be planting and playing, learning while doing; new poems and new languages. And, most importantly, we’ll be making new friends.

Our late summer menu:

And, here’s our Late Summer Menu, 2017.

Mondays: Rice Day
Salad: Carrot Salad
Main: Vegetable curry and rice Dessert: Crackly Banana Muffins

Tuesdays: Bread Day
Salad: Green salad with goat cheese rounds Main: Bread and butter
Dessert: Fresh fruit and yogurt

Wednesdays: Roots Day
Salad: Green salad
Main: Tarte au Pistou; Provençal tart made with onions, tomatoes, basil, and garlic
Dessert: Fresh fruit

Thursdays: Golden Grains Day
Salad: Green salad
Main: Provençal tomato, brown rice, gruyére and summer squash gratin Dessert: Berry or cherry clafoutis (baked custard with fruit)

Fridays: Legumes Day
Salad: Green salad
Main: Green (puy) lentils with tahini and cumin served with wild-yeasted bread (The levain now 4 years old.)
Dessert: Fresh fruit
Cheese: Stinky cheese; we’ll taste different cheeses every week.

*Many of this season’s veggies are supplied by “Happy Hollow Farm” a community-supported organic family farm, when they don’t come from our garden.

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